Choice of Parents

If we chose parents that are abusive or treat us harshly, is that so we can learn how to cope and build better characters for ourselves since like you said, "we are seeking to learn certain lessons from our earthly lives"? Is this endeavour of self-improvement here on earth for a reason that pertains to our position in the spirit world?


The objective of consciousness, which is how I define of life, is to always seek evolvement into a higher form of consciousness. Therefore it follows that when we choose to come to earth and take on a physical body, that choice must have purpose. I believe we choose a particular family, particular parents and a particular period of time because we have reason to believe that in that family at that time in the world’s history, we are most likely to face the physical, emotional or mental conditions and experiences that will provide us with the opportunity to learn particular spiritual lessons.

We know we need to learn these lessons in order to progress. i.e. evolve our consciousness. Sometimes we do not learn the lessons at the first opportunity. In this case we receive another chance and another and so on. Bear in mind it is possible to learn the same spiritual lesson from a wide variety of physical experiences, so the subsequent chances will not necessarily come in the same form as the first.